Friday, May 18, 2007
In the short span of these five months, i've attended more weddings than i've ever attended in my life. And that's a mere 3 to be exact - one of which i admit was a wedding of someone i've never met. (i'm not a wedding crasher la, it was a distant cousin on my mum's side)
And well, in attendance of these kind of events, it makes u ponder and then ponder again some more. Not the whimsical "Omgosh, this is so beautiful & touching - i wanna get married too!", mind you. I guess Jasmine's wedding was really the one that affected me the greatest because God was in attendance & acknowledged repeatedly at her's. i just think that's important.
Marriage isn't just smth u go through just cause it's e norm to someday find a life partner and have kids. And you don't just marry someone cause ure afraid tat if u miss this opportunity it'll never come knocking on your door again, neither is it finding someone who loves you more than you love him/her do so you won't be the one to get hurt in the end.
Marriage is a gift from God, smth not to be taken lightly. And most may think love is enough to hold up a marriage- but here's what i learnt- the rock and foundation of a marriage must first be God before all others fall in place. Without proper foundations, it's bound to crumble bit by bit and who knows, eventually collapse. I'm not saying that it's merely that; of course all other elements like trust, openess, love, commitment etc come into play. Just that these elements can't stand alone and not for long anyways, without the things that are truly important.
And as conventional as it sounds, i think marriage should start with a mindset of permanence- unlike the place in society it has where 2 signatures can simply cut the bind.
Well, just a piece from my wandering & pondering mind. so if u were talking to me during one of those 3 days and i sort of seemed distracted, u'll know where it was. Haha.
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